Donor, Baby Daddy, Popsicle?

I was at the doctor a few weeks ago and we were discussing genetic testing for the baby. When she found out I was Jewish she asked if the baby's dad was Jewish as well. I paused for a moment and seriously wondered who she was talking about. My dad was Jewish, but I am not sure how that matters - and then it dawned on me. She was referring to the donor.

I politely said "Oh the DONOR, yes he is not Jewish"

Leeane was talking with someone the other day and they asked how tall my husband was, knowing that she and I were married. She had that same sort of confusion, trying to figure out who the hell he was referring to. He said, "oh I mean your husband, er the baby's father." She finally deciphered his message and told him that the "baby daddy" was tall.

She and I talked about this at length later and we have decided to take a more proactive role with this. The sperm is from a donor... nothing more. We appreciate the fact that he is willing to give him swimmers to people like us (for a fee), but this in NO WAY makes him a dad, pop, father or whatever other name you tie to it.

Now for me this is very personal, because I would like to say that my dad was a donor, but he did play a role in my life, so he gets dad status, but make no mistake that is crappy dad status. My stepdad is more of a true dad to me and he didn't come into my life until college, but when I refer to my dad, that is who I am talking about.

Its all so confusing, but I think that this is the exciting change to the definition of a family. Its not about who you are tied to genetically, but rather who you know you can call at anytime and feel confident that they will love you no matter what.

Pics to post tomorrow.

Love you all